Mirabel Xiao-Ou Xing; (She/Her); MA, MSW, LMSW

Licensed in NY and NJ

Psychotherapist

Specialties

  • Anxiety

  • Cross-cultural/Immigrant/Third Culture Kid

  • Grief & Loss

  • Infidelity

  • Life Transitions

  • Relationship Issue

Mandarin-speaking

  • 欢迎你来到这里。我明白,踏出第一步开始心理咨询并不容易。为什么我们需要心理咨询?并不是因为我们有病,而是因为在当今社会,我们常常处于自动驾驶模式。表面上看似一切正常,但细看会发现生活很少给我们自我探索和反思的机会。尽管我们坚强地向前走,但每一步都显得有些沉重,每个转角都带来些许迷茫。咨询就像生活中的向导,当我们在职业中耗尽心力或在人际关系中感到疲惫和受伤时,它是一个安全、温暖、私密的休息区,不避讳悲伤与负面的情绪,供你释放、探索与成长。

    我们提供普通话的心理咨询。我精通中英双语,并在自我探索、人际关系、情感问题、家庭与亲密关系、跨文化冲突以及丧亲咨询等方面积累了丰富的经验。当然,人们寻求帮助的问题往往并不是真正需要引导的议题。看似单纯的职业和感情问题常常牵引出许多其他存在的疑问,比如家庭、自我认知和人生意义。问是否该与伴侣分手的人,往往需要先明白原生家庭的影响,通过依附理论探索自己对亲密关系的理解和对人际关系的渴望。问是否该换工作的人,通常是想探索人生的意义并找到自我价值。丧亲看似仅与悲伤相关,但抚平伤痛的方式往往是通过寻找和守护快乐与喜悦来实现。

    若你想与我合作,请给我们留言,我们可以安排一个十五分钟的免费视频咨询。咨询过程中,我想了解是什么促使你寻求心理治疗,以及你对心理咨询的期望。如果合适,我们将共同制定目标并开发个性化的咨询计划。能与你同行,是我的荣幸。

Bio

Historically, humans thrived in close-knit communities, forming deep bonds and receiving diverse support. Today, life feels more isolating due to demanding jobs and scattered loved ones. Yet, our fundamental nature remains unchanged; we still yearn for meaningful connections, emotional support, and a deeper understanding of our human experience.

As a therapist, I cannot replace your community, but together, we will create an intentional space to explore your relationships with yourself and the world, fostering self-awareness. We will seek the peace, freedom, and vitality that transform everyday living into a fulfilling choice.

As an immigrant, Third Culture Kid (TCK), and former international student, I understand that each person’s identity and experiences are nuanced and multilayered. My careers as a journalist and teacher taught me that the narratives we choose or are given are key to understanding our experiences. These narratives may have helped you assimilate in a demanding world, but beneath the surface, there are parts of you longing to be acknowledged and embraced.

I work with individuals and couples through life transitions, interpersonal conflicts, stress, anxiety, loneliness, grief, and loss. My style is relational, strength-focused, culturally sensitive, and trauma-informed, influenced by psychodynamic theories, existential psychotherapy, Gestalt psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).

Whether you are in crisis or seeking a safe space to unload, experiment, and grow, I welcome you with open arms. It would be my privilege to walk this journey with you.

Education

Mirabel holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) from New York University, a Master of Arts (MA) in Journalism from Tsinghua University, and a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology, Anthropology and Communications from McGill University.

Trainings

  • EMDR & Parts Work for Treating Complex Trauma

  • Treating Stressed Out Couples: 22 Clinical Interventions to Help Partners Set Healthy Boundaries, Overcome Resentment, and Thrive Amid Day-to-Day Tensions

  • Transforming Traumatic Grief: New Strategies for Meaningful Healing from Traumatic Loss

Certifications

  • Intensive ACT Training certified by PESI

  • DBT Certification Training certified by Evergreen

  • Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) certified by Evergreen

  • Certified Mindfulness-Informed Professional (CMIP) certified by Evergreen, LGBTQIA+ Affirming Certified Provider

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