Mirabel Xiao-Ou Xing; (She/Her); MA, MSW, LMSW
Licensed in NY and NJ
Psychotherapist
Specialties
Anxiety
Cross-cultural/Immigrant/Third Culture Kid
Grief & Loss
Infidelity
Life Transitions
Relationship Issue
Mandarin-speaking
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欢迎你来到这里。我明白,踏出第一步开始心理咨询并不容易。为什么我们需要心理咨询?并不是因为我们有病,而是因为在当今社会,我们常常处于自动驾驶模式。表面上看似一切正常,但细看会发现生活很少给我们自我探索和反思的机会。尽管我们坚强地向前走,但每一步都显得有些沉重,每个转角都带来些许迷茫。咨询就像生活中的向导,当我们在职业中耗尽心力或在人际关系中感到疲惫和受伤时,它是一个安全、温暖、私密的休息区,不避讳悲伤与负面的情绪,供你释放、探索与成长。
我们提供普通话的心理咨询。我精通中英双语,并在自我探索、人际关系、情感问题、家庭与亲密关系、跨文化冲突以及丧亲咨询等方面积累了丰富的经验。当然,人们寻求帮助的问题往往并不是真正需要引导的议题。看似单纯的职业和感情问题常常牵引出许多其他存在的疑问,比如家庭、自我认知和人生意义。问是否该与伴侣分手的人,往往需要先明白原生家庭的影响,通过依附理论探索自己对亲密关系的理解和对人际关系的渴望。问是否该换工作的人,通常是想探索人生的意义并找到自我价值。丧亲看似仅与悲伤相关,但抚平伤痛的方式往往是通过寻找和守护快乐与喜悦来实现。
若你想与我合作,请给我们留言,我们可以安排一个十五分钟的免费视频咨询。咨询过程中,我想了解是什么促使你寻求心理治疗,以及你对心理咨询的期望。如果合适,我们将共同制定目标并开发个性化的咨询计划。能与你同行,是我的荣幸。
Bio
Historically, humans thrived in close-knit communities, forming deep bonds and receiving diverse support. Today, life feels more isolating due to demanding jobs and scattered loved ones. Yet, our fundamental nature remains unchanged; we still yearn for meaningful connections, emotional support, and a deeper understanding of our human experience.
As a therapist, I cannot replace your community, but together, we will create an intentional space to explore your relationships with yourself and the world, fostering self-awareness. We will seek the peace, freedom, and vitality that transform everyday living into a fulfilling choice.
As an immigrant, Third Culture Kid (TCK), and former international student, I understand that each person’s identity and experiences are nuanced and multilayered. My careers as a journalist and teacher taught me that the narratives we choose or are given are key to understanding our experiences. These narratives may have helped you assimilate in a demanding world, but beneath the surface, there are parts of you longing to be acknowledged and embraced.
I work with individuals and couples through life transitions, interpersonal conflicts, stress, anxiety, loneliness, grief, and loss. My style is relational, strength-focused, culturally sensitive, and trauma-informed, influenced by psychodynamic theories, existential psychotherapy, Gestalt psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
Whether you are in crisis or seeking a safe space to unload, experiment, and grow, I welcome you with open arms. It would be my privilege to walk this journey with you.
Education
Mirabel holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) from New York University, a Master of Arts (MA) in Journalism from Tsinghua University, and a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology, Anthropology and Communications from McGill University.
Trainings
EMDR & Parts Work for Treating Complex Trauma
Treating Stressed Out Couples: 22 Clinical Interventions to Help Partners Set Healthy Boundaries, Overcome Resentment, and Thrive Amid Day-to-Day Tensions
Transforming Traumatic Grief: New Strategies for Meaningful Healing from Traumatic Loss
Certifications
Intensive ACT Training certified by PESI
DBT Certification Training certified by Evergreen
Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) certified by Evergreen
Certified Mindfulness-Informed Professional (CMIP) certified by Evergreen, LGBTQIA+ Affirming Certified Provider